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If a man is wise and fears Allah, This will keep him too busy to concern himself with the faults of others, Just as the weak and sick person is too concerned with his own pain, To think of the pain of others

"The slave is not afflicted with a punishment greater in severity then the hardening of the heart and being distant from Allah...

ibn al Qayyim al Jawziyyah’s al Fawaaid (p 111-112) "The slave is not afflicted with a punishment greater in severity then the hardening of the heart and being distant from Allah. For the Fire was created to melt the hardened heart. The most distant heart from Allah is the heart which is hardened. If the heart becomes hardened, the eye becomes dry. If four matters are exceeded in quantity, beyond what is necessary, the heart shall become hardened: Food, sleep, speech and sexual intercourse. A body afflicted by disease does not derive nourishment from food or water, similarly a heart diseased by desire does not benefit from admonishment and exhortation. Whosoever desires to purify his heart, then let him prefer Allah to his desires. The heart which is clinging to its desires is veiled from Allah, commensurate to the degree that it is attached to them, the hearts are the vessels of Allah upon his earth, hence the most beloved of them to him, are the ones most compassionate, pure and resistant to deviation. They (the transgressors) preoccupied their hearts [in the pursuance] of the Dunya, would that they preoccupied them with Allah and the hereafter, then surely they would have reflected upon the intended meaning of his poignant words and verses. Their hearts would have returned to their masters with wisdom, marvelously curious and [in possession] of the rarest of precious gems. If the heart is nourished with remembrance, its thirst quenched with contemplation and cleansed from corruption, it shall witness remarkable and wondrous matters, inspiring wisdom. Not every individual who is endowed with knowledge and wisdom, and assumes its character is from amongst its people. Rather the people of knowledge and wisdom are those who infused life into their hearts by slaying their desires. As for the one who slays his heart and vitalized his desires, then knowledge and wisdom is naked upon his tongue. The destruction of the heart occurs by security [in this Dunya] and negligence, its fortification occurs by fear and remembrance. If the heart renounces the pleasures of the Dunya, it settles upon the [pursuance of] pleasures of the Hereafter, and amongst those who call towards it. Should the heart become content with the pleasures of the Dunya, those pleasures [of the hereafter] cease [to continue]. Yearning for Allah and his meeting is like the gentle breeze blowing upon the heart, extinguishing the blaze of the Dunya. Whosoever caused his heart to settle with his Lord shall be in a state, clam and tranquil, and whosoever sent it amongst the people shall be disturbed and excessively perturbed. For the love of Allah shall not enter a heart, which contains the love of this world, except as a camel, which passes through the eye of a needle. Hence, the most beloved servant before Allah is the one whom He places in His servitude, whom He selects for His love, whom He causes to purify his worship for Him, dedicates his objectives for Him, his tongue for His remembrance, and his limbs for His service. The heart becomes sick, as the body becomes sick, and its remedy is al-Tawbah and protection [from transgression]. It becomes rusty as a mirror becomes rusty, and its clarity is obtained by remembrance. It becomes naked as the body becomes naked, and its beautification is at-Taqwa. It becomes hungry and thirsty as the body becomes hungry and thirst, and its food and drink are knowledge, love, dependence, repentance and servitude.”

"And remind, for indeed the reminder benefits the believer." [Al Qur'an 51:55]

Shaykh Salih al-Fawzan about those who Count and Spread the Mistakes of the Du'at!

Sheikh Salih Al Fawzan Those Who Count and Spread the Mistakes of the Du'at!

Polygyny : 19 Points for Dividing Equally and Just Between Wives

 Polygyny     19 Points for Dividing Equally and Just   Between Wives   It’s permissible to visit any one of your wives, whether day or night regardless if it’s not her time ; out of necessity. It’s recommended to give women their own home, and it’s permissible to place them in the same house. However, each woman must have her own apartment inside, including own kitchen and bathroom. The husband has the right to have his own home and have his wives visit him on their time. On the other hand, he mustn’t stay with only one wife and have his other wives visit him at her home. If a man travels with one wife after having drawn lots then he doesn’t have to make  up the time for the other wives. Now if he didn’t draw lots between his wives, he must make up the time. It’s not permissible to divorce one of your wives during her time you owe her. If a man leaves his wife during her time for something normal (in his affairs) he doesn’t have to make this time up. If a man leaves his wife during her time for something normal during the day or with a valid excuse, he doesn’t have to make up the time. Although if he does it during the night without an excuse to leave or reason, he must make up the time. Nonetheless, it’s possible as well, that he won’t have to make it up based on the reason for leaving. If a man is always on the road he must draw lots between the wives, who didn’t travel the first trip. The division of time is at night for the person who works during the day and during the day for the person who works nights.   The person incarcerated doesn’t have to divide his time between wives.   If a man visits one of his wives and it isn’t her day, he doesn’t have to spend that same period of time with the other wife. Then again, he should compensate his other wife/wives by doing the same thing. i.e visit them when it’s not their day  If a man visits his wife and it isn’t her time, he can enjoy her, without sex. And if he  has relations with her, he must do the   same thing with his other wife, while it isn’t her time.   It is Haraam to have relations with one wife in the presence of the other.  The man must place his stuff, odds and ends, clothing, etc between houses equally with his wives.   If the wife travels with or without her husband’s permission, this time doesn’t have to be made up.   The sick man must still divide his time justly. If it is difficult for him he must ask permission from the other sisters to remain at the one of their homes. If they refuse, he must draw lots and consequently remain with the woman who drew the lot.     It is an obligation in Islam to divide time and be fair between the wives. This includes maintenance and gifts, but not in relations.      The woman has the right to forfeit her division of time. 19.    If a man travels at the beginning of a woman’s time, when he returns he lets that woman have the full share of her time. Taken from “The Verdicts of Division between Wives” By The Department of Scientific Research in Umul Qura University in Makkah 2009 Translated by Abu Aaliyah Abdullah ibn Dwight Battle Doha, Qatar 1431 © http://www.abuaaliyah.com/2014/10/16/polygyny/

Polygyny : 19 Points for Dividing Equally and Just Between Wives

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Avoid Four to be Protected from Shaytaan

Avoid Four to be Protected from Shaytaan

Imam al-Hasan al-Basri (rahimahullah) stated:

If there are four things present in a person, Allah would preserve him from the Shaytaan and prevent him from entering the Fire: Whoever has control over himself during times of:

1. Raghbah - Need

2. Rahbah - Fear

3. Shahwah - Desire

4. Ghadab - Anger."

Ibn Rajab stated: These four that al-Hasan mentioned are the basis of all evil.

Raghbah is to have a need for something, is to want it and believe that it is beneficial for you. So whoever has a need for something, this need may drive him to attain it through any means possible, a lot of which could be impermissible. The object that is needed could be prohibited itself.

Rahbah is to fear something. If a person fears something he would try to repel it by any means necessary, a lot of which may be impermissible.

Shahwah is to desire something that you take pleasure from. A person may desire a lot of things that are prohibited such as fornication, theft, alcohol, disbelief, magic, hypocrisy and innovations.

Ghadab - Anger: It is the boiling of the hearts blood to repel a harm fearing that it would take place, or to take revenge from someone who has previously caused harm. A lot of impermissible things take place as a consequence of anger, such as fighting, hitting as well as other types of oppression and transgression. A lot of impermissible forms of speech also take place such as defamation, insults, and evil words. This may even reach the level of disbelief.

Author: Shaykh Zayd al Madkhalee

Reference: Al Afnaan an Nadiyyah Vol.8 p, 328